What makes a man not last longer in bed

Premature Ejaculation or Early Ejaculation

What makes a man not last longer in bed. Premature ejaculation is simply defined as “ejaculation occurring before the individual wishes it”. The condition can be temporary in inexperienced men, adolescents, and men who are too highly excited. This includes men who have abstained from sex for a long time. The Hite Report on Male Sexuality surveyed over seven thousand men and found that 21% ejaculated within 50-60 seconds. Another 62% ejaculated within 1-5 minutes. Only 1 in 6 men lasted over 5 minutes and 1 in 10 over 10 minutes. There is no difference between nations and races, and no difference between circumcised and those men with foreskins. Most men will last longer if they have sex again a little while later. It can take a man anything from several minutes to several hours to get another erection. In books and movies, the male heroes have sex for hours on end. In real life, such men are the minority.

Premature ejaculation (PE) is when you have an orgasm before intercourse or less than a minute after you start. There is no set time when a man should ejaculate during sex, but if you ejaculate and lose your erection this soon, you and your partner may feel there’s not enough time to enjoy it.

Causes of premature ejaculation

Physical and psychological factors can cause premature ejaculation.

What makes a man not last in bed (Physical causes of premature ejaculation)

Premature ejaculation has been linked to many physical causes. There are very few medical reasons for premature ejaculation. In the early 1990s, research indicated that the pelvic muscles, specifically the muscles that surround the erectile bodies in the penis, are in a hyperactive state in men with premature ejaculation. Further, it is known that during the ejaculation process there is increased activity of these same muscle groups. Consequently, it is likely that men who have premature ejaculation have hyperactive muscles that are already on their way toward the threshold to producing ejaculations. Recent studies have also shown that infection of the prostate can also cause premature ejaculation.

Psychological causes of premature ejaculation

For the majority of men with premature ejaculation, the origin is psychological. It may stem from a first sexual experience. There is an enormous of pressure to perform and premature ejaculation occurs. This can cause a feeling of inadequacy that can manifest again as performance anxiety and cause the problem to escalate. This may result in years of feeling inadequate and frustrated. Some men go through their whole lives never really experiencing control of their ejaculation.

Treating premature ejaculation

Various urban legends exist that claim to treat or cure premature ejaculation. Generally speaking, these techniques do not work. Getting drunk, using one or more condoms, concentrating on something other than sex while having sex, biting one’s cheek as a distraction and frequent masturbation are examples of such treatments. One must bear in mind that premature ejaculation is a treatable condition even though it seems to most men to be a huge problem. Various proven techniques exist for treating premature ejaculation.

The squeeze method

The squeeze method was developed by Masters and Johnson. This method has the partner stimulate the man’s penis until he is close to ejaculation. At the point when he is about to ejaculate, the partner squeezes the penis. This makes him partially lose his erection. The goal of this technique is to teach the man to become aware of the sensations leading up to orgasm. He then begins to control and delay his orgasm on his own.

The stop-start method

The stop-start method involves the stimulation of the penis by the partner, where the man will communicate to his partner to stop when he feels that he is about to ejaculate, the partner stops stimulating the man’s penis before ejaculation becomes inevitable. Then as he feels he regains control, he instructs the partner to begin stimulating his penis again. The couple repeats this exercise three times a week until the man has good control, then they progress to stop-start with lubrication, and then intercourse with the woman on top and the man not moving. He again instructs her to stop moving when he senses he is losing control. The couple progresses over subsequent times to having the man move during intercourse in this position and then side by side intercourse. Instead of stopping and starting, the couple may progress to merely slowing down to enable the man to regain control of his urge to ejaculate. While the exercise methods are effective, they both rely on the cooperation of the man’s partner, which in some cases may be a problem. For that reason, other methods are used to help the man get control of the sensations leading up to orgasm.

Drug Therapy – Antidepressants

Drug therapy – antidepressants. There have been reports in the urology literature of successful treatment of premature ejaculation through the use of low-dose antidepressants including Anafranil, Muzak, and Zoloft. Significantly delayed ejaculation is one of the known side effects of these medications. In the studies, extremely low doses of the antidepressant medication have prolonged ejaculation by at least 5-10 minutes. The medication is given approximately four hours before intercourse. It will result in a significant delay of ejaculation. Some patients have described side effects (drowsiness or nausea) with this treatment.

Drug Therapy – Self-Injection Therapy

Drug Therapy – self-injection therapy. Recently doctors have reported significant success using self-injection therapy. Essentially this approach is a self-paced therapy and medication, which over a period of six to twelve weeks will allow one to gain control of the erection rather than the other way around. Within 5 to 10 minutes of administering the medicine to the side of the penis, a full erection will develop that will last even after ejaculation. This means that even if one ejaculates prematurely, the erection will remain firm so making love can continue. The rationale behind this approach is that it will enable extended penile contact with the vagina thereby “desensitizing” the penis. When used in conjunction with the exercise techniques described above this type of therapy has proved successful.

Drug Therapy – Self-Injection Therapy

Drug Therapy – self-injection therapy. Recently doctors have reported significant success using self-injection therapy. Essentially this approach is a self-paced therapy and medication, which over a period of six to twelve weeks will allow one to gain control of the erection rather than the other way around. Within 5 to 10 minutes of administering the medicine to the side of the penis, a full erection will develop that will last even after ejaculation. This means that even if one ejaculates prematurely, the erection will remain firm so making love can continue. The rationale behind this approach is that it will enable extended penile contact with the vagina thereby “desensitizing” the penis. When used in conjunction with the exercise techniques described above this type of therapy has proved successful.

Counseling

Frequently, marital and relationship issues may be an underlying cause of premature ejaculation. Counseling sessions to improve the success of the therapy should also address these issues.

General Advice

Remember that sex is for the pleasure of both partners. The concern of satisfying your partner should mean that sexual intercourse becomes pleasurable for you. You must get rid of any beliefs that say, real men, make a woman orgasm purely by prolonged thrusting with the penis. This is not true. Most men have read stories or seen movies in which the male heroes are thrust away for hours on end and the women have multiple orgasms. But in real life, this usually does not happen because almost 75% of women can only have an orgasm by directly stimulating the clitoris. For the majority of women, a good lover is a man who can stimulate their clitoris, not a man who can thrust away with his penis for ages and ages. Many women find prolonged penile thrusting uncomfortable and they may even fake an orgasm to get the whole thing over. The benefits of foreplay and clitoral stimulation can not be stressed enough. Try to use your manual, oral, or mechanical (a vibrator) stimulation on your partner’s clitoris to bring her to orgasm before you even attempt penetration with the penis. This will take the pressure off you to perform.

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Treatment

Common treatment options for premature ejaculation include behavioral techniques, topical anesthetics, medications, and counseling. Keep in mind that it might take time to find the treatment or combination of treatments that will work for you. Behavioral treatment plus drug therapy might be the most effective course.

Behavioral techniques

In some cases, therapy for premature ejaculation might involve taking simple steps, such as masturbating an hour or two before intercourse so that you’re able to delay ejaculation during sex. Your doctor also might recommend avoiding intercourse for a period of time and focusing on other types of sexual play so that pressure is removed from your sexual encounters.

Pelvic floor exercises

Weak pelvic floor muscles might impair your ability to delay ejaculation. Pelvic floor exercises (Kegel exercises) can help strengthen these muscles.

To perform these exercises:

• Find the right muscles. To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream or tighten the muscles that keep you from passing gas. These maneuvers use your pelvic floor muscles. Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, you can do the exercises in any position, although you might find it easier to do them lying down at first.
• Perfect your technique. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Try it a few times in a row. When your muscles get stronger, try doing Kegel exercises while sitting, standing, or walking.
• Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs, or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.
• Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.

The pause-squeeze technique

Your doctor might instruct you and your partner in the use of a method called the pause-squeeze technique. This method works as follows:

1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate.
2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes.
3. Have your partner repeat the squeeze process as necessary.

By repeating as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. After some practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation might become a habit that no longer requires the pause-squeeze technique.

If the pause-squeeze technique causes pain or discomfort, another technique is to stop sexual stimulation just prior to ejaculation, wait until the level of arousal has diminished, and then start again. This approach is known as the stop-start technique.

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